Telling your boss you need time off for treatment
“I need to take medical leave for a health condition. I would like to talk about FMLA and what paperwork you need from my doctor.” You do not have to say what the condition is.
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Scripts for hard conversations
The first sentence is the hardest. Here it is.
Asking a parent or partner for help
“I have been struggling with something and I have not been honest about how bad it is. I am not asking you to fix it. I am asking you to sit with me while I make a phone call.”
Calling a treatment center
“Before we go further: are you in-network with my plan, and what will I owe in dollars for the stay you are recommending? Can you email that to me?”
Saying no to a drink
“I’m good, thanks.” That is the whole script. You never owe anyone a reason.
Talking to someone you love about their use
“I love you and I am scared. I have noticed ___. I am not here to fight. I found a place that can see you tomorrow. Will you go with me?”
Telling someone you relapsed
“I used. I am telling you because I do not want to hide it. I am safe right now and I am calling my counselor today.”
Disputing a bill
“I am requesting an itemized statement and the billing codes for every charge. Please put my account on hold while I review it.”
Setting a boundary
“I will not give you money. I will drive you to treatment any day you say the word.”
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